Sunday
Dec192010

8.1 The Skill

Remembering how you fell in love is one of the best antidotes to apathy you have going for you.

Telling that story to someone else brings those feelings back, often as fresh as they were years go.
Invite each couple in the group to tell their story, in as much detail as you can fit into an evening. Invite them to bring photographs, the music, mementos, and keepsakes. Talk about the places, and feelings, the bumps and the ah-has. Be sure to have a box of tissues handy.

 

 

Thursday
Aug282014

8.2 The Quote

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”  So God created man in Hisown image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.  Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Genesis 1

Sunday
Dec192010

8.3 The Story

Stars have long been the mailbox for wishes about finding the person of one's dreams. I like that it aims our attention heavenward. There is a delightful children's book called Starlight Bride by Paul Owen Lewis that describes a prince and young woman who both ask God to lead them through the brightness of a star to true marriage love. 

I have heard of deals people make with God to show them a sign of who to marry. My own husband had one. He and God had an understanding... if John found a woman who felt the same way as he did about why babies die, and how it fits between providence and freedom, he would marry her. 

We were driving in my white '65 Mustang when he asked me, back in 1979, what I thought about such things. I launched into how I had wrestled the pieces together in my mind, and finished as we were waiting at a red light on Route 202. He said nothing. 

I thought, "He thinks I am stupid."

He thought, "I have to marry her."

It was several months before John made good on his promise to God, and proposed, and longer still until he told me about The Deal.

For us it was a wonderful way to feel led and yet free at the same time. Thank you, Lord.


Sunday
Dec192010

8.4 Activity with Your Children

Borrow Starlight Bride from the library and read it with your children. While you are at it, get For the Love of Autumn, by Patricia Polacco. In it the main character articulates her own conditions under which she will know her future husband when she sees him. Then be sure to tell your children your own love story, with pictures and all the details you can remember. It will nourish them like nothing else. 

Sunday
Dec192010

8.5 Prayer

Oh Lord,
Thank you for leading us together. Thank you for protecting our sense of freedom too. You want us to feel as if we chose our partner, and still we want to know that you have prepared us for each other in myriad ways.
Amen.

Thursday
Aug282014

8.6 Ideas

Watch your wedding video together, or drive to places you went years ago. Revisit favorite spots and rekindle those feelings. They are not gone, they are just packed away.