Tin Man
Wednesday, May 28, 2014 at 11:12AM
Caring for Marriage

This morning at breakfast Ben asked what rust is.

"That's when metal gets wet and turns brown," I answered, knowing that he did not ask out of ignorance but interest.
"The Scarecrow tells the Tin Man, 'Don't cry, you'll rust!' " He laughs.
"What scene are the poppies in?" I ask out of interest and ignorance. He gets that look that reminds me of a spectacled librarian scanning the Dewey Decimal System. 
"Twenty seven to twenty nine." 
I notice that his fascination is not with the character who lacks a brain. Ben's intellectual skills are not rusty.
"When a man's an empty kettle, he must be on his mettle, and still I'm torn apart...." His voice trails off. He reaches for my phone. Within seconds the You Tube is up and he is listening to the Tin Man. 
Emotion is an enigma to some kids on the spectrum. An adult with autism told me he cannot often identify the feelings, only that they are overwhelming. 
Maybe more of us are looking for new hearts than just Dorothy's companion. 
This quote is what John and I sang as our wedding vows thirty four years ago. I did not know then that I would be walking down my own yellow brick road. 
And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit will I put within you. And I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and I will give you a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 11

 

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